Where is your office located?
My office is located in the heart of downtown Evanston, at 1618 Orrington Avenue (the Hahn Building), between Davis Street and Church Street. Metered and paid parking are available in close proximity to the building, and there is free parking within close walking distance, east of the building, towards Lake Michigan.
Public transportation is also nearby. I am one block from the Davis Street el and bus stop, and one block from the Metra station.
I’ve never met with a therapist before and I’m nervous about talking with a stranger. What can I do about this since I also want to get help?
It’s normal for people to feel nervous about meeting with a therapist — especially if they’ve never met with one before. While one of the benefits of therapy is that it’s separate from the rest of your life, the thought of meeting with a complete stranger can still feel scary. What you can do about this is honor the full range of your feelings by asking me the questions that are on your mind; sharing your concerns about therapy; and allowing yourself to feel hopeful that it just might work out. It’s important to me that you feel comfortable, and I will do everything I can to put you at ease.
“Therapy” sounds very clinical and impersonal. What is therapy actually like?
Therapy is like having a conversation with yourself with the help of another person. As with any conversation with anyone, experiences of sharing may include moments that are: serious; funny; introspective; difficult; insightful; healing, and everything in-between. My belief as a therapist is that therapy is not about “correcting” or “fixing” “deficiencies,” but about supporting your capacity to heal yourself and live the life that you want. I have a down-to-earth approach to working with people that lends itself to relationship and connection.
I like to handle things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
People who go to therapy are not weak. Life is complex, and we all need help from time-to-time to address painful, sad or otherwise sticky feelings and experiences. It’s normal for people to lean on others for help maintaining a sense of wellness and well-being. Asking for help is a sign of strength, and getting the support that you want and need will help you to feel stronger. Moreover: you will continue to handle things on your own. You will just have more tools with which to do so.
What’s the difference between talking with you or talking with my best friend or a family member?
The reasons people share personal matters with friends and family are often the same reasons people choose to speak with a therapist: friends and family members know you; love you and know others in your life.
Disclosing private thoughts to someone in your inner circle may, at times, be the perfect fit. At other times, you may worry about saying something that will hurt, worry, or anger your friend or family member.
Naturally, when it comes to sharing with friends and family members, people fear things such as: saying too much; risking the possibility that their secrets will be shared and making things awkward as a result of their disclosure.
Because I don’t know you and am not part of your social world, I can offer you a space that is non-judgemental; without expectation; and without the risks of your other relationships.
Additionally, I have training and experience that your loved ones may not be able to offer.
How long will therapy take?
Everyone’s circumstances are unique, so it’s impossible to say, in a FAQ page, how long we will need to meet in order for you to reach your goals. In general, steady progress is facilitated by meeting, at least in the beginning, on a weekly basis.
Do you offer couples counseling?
I don’t offer couples counseling, but I do offer individual therapy for people who are coping with relationship challenges. When couples are struggling, it is often helpful for individuals to pursue their own therapy. Individual therapy can help you to: clarify your needs and boundaries; articulate your hopes and concerns and recognize patterns of thought and behavior that serve or sabatoge what you want in your relationship.
While you cannot control the thoughts, feelings and behavior of your partner, you can address these within yourself to influence the dynamic of your relationship.